In 1969, Elizabeth Kubler-Ross published a book which outlined the 5 stages of grief. These were denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. These stages reflect how people cope with death and dying, and are non-linear and not necessarily a true progression from one to the next. The stages can, however, be applied to any form of loss including death of a loved on, loss of a job or income, the end of a relationship, incarceration, or the loss of an insurance plan.
This is a sad, but real way to start this blog, which hopefully will cheer up in the future.
I recently discovered that a best friend of mine, who I hadn’t spoken to in 3 months or seen in over a year, had taken his own life. The emotions that I’m feeling about this are too big to keep inside myself and I’m worried that they’ll tear me apart if I try to repress them (as is my usual, and very unhealthy coping strategy for nearly everything).
I lost my grandpa around Christmas in 2016. I did not go through these stages, as it was a long illness and one in which his passing was seen as a sad relief. Obviously, I was devastated, but it was very expected and as good a death as we could have asked for.
Losing Jack last week is very different. It was unexpected and staggering, an absolute sucker punch that left myself, others he had known in Oxford, and of course his family, reeling.
I want to document my experience as I move through these stages of grief and hopefully find some acceptance. My therapist will be thrilled to hear this!!
I also want to use this platform to talk about other things, such as recipes, crafts and general life once I’m through with this first venture.
Thank you for reading!